If you live in a remote area, here are 5 tips for online dating.
It is possible to fix almost any of the reasons why people struggle with online dating. We can help you if your profile is not up to scratch. We can tell you how to improve your photos if they are not getting attention. We can help you figure out How to Start a Conversation with Someone Online, and how to decide whether the person you’re looking at is good enough to make an attempt. We can’t change the geography.
Every week, I get at least 5 calls from singles who complain that there aren’t enough singles around them. Many singles don’t live in big cities like New York, Los Angeles, or Chicago. This means they have a limited pool of potential matches. What’s the solution to a problem that you can’t fix?
It was a difficult situation for me. Idealistically, I wouldn’t advise anyone to look for dates more than two hours away. It is not only harder to develop a relationship if you go further away, but also more likely that romance scams will occur. Just because this is the ideal doesn’t mean it will be reality for millions singles in the US and across the globe. Here are five tips to help you be more successful when it comes to online dating, especially if there is no one to date.
Move
It sounds oversimplified and doesn’t really fit the lives of most people. It’s true. Many people would never even think about this, but thanks to the rise of remote work, and the increasing number of people working from home, you can make home wherever you want it.
How do you choose where to move if moving is an option? Research! Focus on what makes you happy and forget about dating for a minute. What cities offer the climate you desire? What city has an arts or culture scene that you find exciting? What are the best places to get food you will love?
You can narrow down your list to the top ten things you are looking for in a city. You can now bring dating into the discussion. Search for people in the cities you are interested in using a dating app such as ChristianMingle or Match. Find out what dating is like in those cities and whether they have the people that you’re looking for.
Make video part of your dating life
Most people can’t move, but it doesn’t mean there aren’t enough people to meet. It’s time to look a bit outside of your comfort zone. Just remember, I said outside your comfort zone, not outside your time zone.
You shouldn’t try to open the entire country at once if you need to consider long-distance dating to find people. You should start as local as possible. What is the largest city closest to you? What cities are close enough to you so that a quick flight won’t cost a fortune?
The big thing is to move the conversation from text to video as soon as possible. It is crucial that when you begin online dating in areas where you cannot easily get there by car, you switch the conversation as soon as possible to video. This doesn’t necessarily mean that all conversations have to be video chats. It’s important to have something more than just text or voice. You must verify that the photos you are using are accurate. You should also see how they look when they laugh and their physical reaction to your conversation. It will protect you against people who do not represent themselves honestly, and it will help you to build a relationship with them.
Set Your Dating Goals
You will burn out if you use a local dating app. Your dating pool will grow the larger you make it. The more specific your goals are, the better.
I don’t mean to make a fantasy match wish list. We’re not talking about the negotiables. What do you need to see in a person before you can consider them as a long-term partner for the sake of dating? What can they not have? What is your goal? What is your motivation? What kind of relationship do you hope to achieve?
Honesty Is The Only Policy
Lies are the easiest way to turn a potential match into someone who will never want to speak to you again. You will meet people you like but they won’t date anyone too far away. Let them go, and find someone who is. You should never lie about your location in the hope that someone will “bend” the truth and understand why you did it.
In reality, they only see the lie. They wonder what other lies you have told and what you will tell in the future. It doesn’t mean that someone is bad if they don’t want to date you due to where you live. It makes them incompatible. Too many people have their hearts broken by being lied about things like this. Don’t be part of the issue. You may not only lose your potential match, but you could also be reported and banned by the dating platform.
Beware Of International Opportunities
It’s not a new idea to look for love overseas. Online dating makes it almost as easy as possible to find a partner near you as it is to look for love 5,000 miles from home. My advice is… don’t. Every time I have seen someone meet someone overseas I’ve also seen 25 people get scammed or find themselves in a relationship based more on what they can provide than their true self. The “Passport Bros” trend, where people temporarily move overseas to find love with the local population, is a good example. Going overseas to find love is not worth the risk, nor does it fix the problems that prevent you from having a relationship with someone for a long time. Many people complain about men and women from the US. However, their complaints are more related to a lack in self-awareness or growth rather than the people they wish to date. This is a topic for another blog, but most people believe they cannot find someone decent in their own country. It is usually because of unrealistic expectations or some other issue.