Christian Dating Advice

It can be difficult to navigate all the Christian dating advice. Spending time with someone should be intentional, but not to the point that you are consumed. It is important to be vulnerable, but not to the point of compromising your boundaries. You want to ask deeper questions, but you don’t rush into a relationship. Finding out how to date can be difficult, confusing, and exhausting.

Dating, whether it’s in its early stages or more serious ones, can help you to glorify God.

You may be evaluating whether a relationship is right for you. You may be just getting to know someone. You may be single and ready to date when God decides. You can be confident that God will use every relationship to make you closer to Jesus, no matter where you are.

Eight tips to help you find the right partner, be the perfect person, and develop healthy rhythms.

It might be overwhelming depending on how you have dealt with dating in the past. If you are new to dating and don’t know where to start, or if you have received too much advice as a child and feel afraid of making mistakes, this article will help.

Dating is a relationship between two sinful people. You will undoubtedly make mistakes as you get to know each other. It’s crucial to develop the habit of relying upon Jesus often and early. You will be exhausted, discouraged, or distracted if you spend all your energy on dating. If this happens, develop a rhythm of prayer, accountability, and returning to God’s Word.

Ask God to help you remove all anxiety and perfectionism as you begin to trust Him more with your dating life. As you enter this new world, let yourself be completely dependent on God’s wisdom, love and care. You are not alone, even though it can feel overwhelming at times.

Relationships can be a great gift to add to your quality of life. However, they can quickly become problematic when they take over your entire life. You should encourage each other as a couple to grow both together and apart.

Dr. Henry Cloud is the co-author “How to Get A Date That’s Worth Keeping”, “Boundaries In Dating” and “Fantasy,” a book that addresses “dating disease” common to people. One of these “dating diseases” is “dating in a vacuum.”

Dating from a vacuum is when you start a relationship to fill a void within yourself. You will soon feel dependent, and this feeling will invade all aspects of your life, including friendships, hobbies, work etc.

Relationships are wonderful, but you should also consider the way that you spend your free time to ensure they stay in their rightful place. You should both be involved in activities that will help you to grow as individuals. As a rule, you should set aside time each week for your friends, hobbies and reflection.

As with any intentional relationship, dating requires time spent together. The more time spent together, the less you will have with your other loved ones.

Invite people quickly in and ask them for their feedback. This will ensure that you are not isolated into a corner, where no one knows you.

Imagine this as a scenario that you would encounter in everyday life — what happens if you asked your friends to give their opinion on a major purchase before making it? What would happen if, after purchasing the item, you showed it to your friends and asked their opinion? Knowing that you have already made a commitment will affect their ability to express themselves freely.

Be sure to ask people who know you well, whom you trust and will be honest with you when they see something you don’t. You may be tempted to ignore God’s timing or your own well-being because of your emotions and attraction. You should ask for feedback from others who can zoom out to see the relationship as it really is.

You need God-fearing people in your life for balance and perspective. It is important to get advice from people who are more experienced than yourself. You cannot date alone if you want to have a healthy relationship on all levels.

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Godliness is one of the things that you should be looking for when dating as a Jesus follower. While this is an admirable character trait, you should also remember that you’re not the same person as you were five or six years ago. You will go through times that will shape and pressurize you. As you experience new experiences and milestones, your interests, friends, desires, and even your personality may change.

Imagine yourself in five years. Do they show signs of improvement? Are they willing to accept feedback and are they aware of their mistakes? Do they surround themselves with people who are wise and teachable? Do you feel excited by the person that they are becoming? Remember that the person you’re looking for is someone who is growing spiritually, not someone who has reached perfection.

If you are already in a relationship, imagine how your life will be five years down the road. Do you have healthy rhythms in place that will help your relationship grow and change over time? What do you do together? How do you resolve conflict? These small choices can have a big impact on your health.

Even small movements in a different direction can cause you to land in very different painful places.

In the early stages of a relationship, it may be easy to overlook or ignore differences in direction. As time passes, these differences may become more apparent and cause tension. You may find yourself wondering why you began dating.

It is important to ask if you are going the same way. This is one of your first considerations when you’re dating someone. If you are honest, you can avoid future pain by addressing the issues that could end your relationship sooner rather than later.

This is important for the spiritual side of your relationship. You can avoid a difficult journey by determining if they have surrendered their lives to Jesus.

This can also be important in other areas of life. Do you share the same passions, plans for your future or lifestyles that God has given to you? You want to make sure that, as you grow and change, your values are aligned.

It’s hard to draw boundaries when you love someone. The lines you draw in the beginning will have a lasting impact on your relationship.

Boundaries are a way to show how much you care about God, yourself and other people. Boundaries are not only about sexuality; they also show your love. When you think of your boundaries as being restrictive, it can lead to compromises in other areas. You start to ask, “What can I do else to achieve what is being suppressed?”

Ask yourself “What am I really interested in?” Instead of looking at physical boundaries as a guide to “what you should not do”, ask yourself “What is important to me?” Examples include honoring God, showing care for others, developing a real relationship, and/or deepening your relationship with God. Ask yourself next how you can set physical boundaries to honor these values.

Dating is always a challenge, no matter how you look at it. You are two people who have to learn how to love one another. It can be tempting, depending on your dating history, to think that you’ll naturally gel and encourage each other toward growth. While this is true in many cases, there are also moments of confusion, misunderstanding and discouragement.

In order to build a solid relationship, both parties must invest time, effort and consideration in the other’s needs and benefits. It is important to take the time to get to know each other and capitalize on their positive qualities while accepting the negative ones. Don’t get discouraged when you fall or aren’t where you want to be. You should look for signs that you have a good character and are turning away from your sins.

Surrounding yourself with people who you can learn from is a simple way to stay motivated as you make mistakes. Your married friends can tell you about their progress over the years. You can ask your friends who are in relationships how they deal with conflict. Your single friends can tell you how they’re forming their character. You will be able to see the relationship as it really is – a long, slow process that becomes sweeter with time if you are willing to put in some work.

The person you were before dating someone won’t change by itself once you bring another person into your chaos. As you consider hurting someone close to you, the same sinful patterns may surface.

It’s easy to think about who you want to be and not who you are. Spending time praying and thinking about a person that you may one day meet is not the best way to take care of your spiritual and emotional wellbeing.

What makes a relationship healthy? Character is the key to a healthy relationship.

Healthy relationships are between two people who work together to develop their emotional maturity, acknowledge their strengths, admit their weaknesses, and grow together.

Jesus says to be courageous. You can be confident that God’s character and power will not change, even in times of uncertainty. You should trust God and give Him your desires.

You can be confident in the end by remembering that Jesus is at the center of your relationship. You can depend on Him to meet all of your needs.