You can’t do it alone: Change is easier when you have help

No, please. “I can do it myself.”

This line has been read to my little boy dozens of time over the last few months, as I put him to sleep.

We’re teaching children how to accept help from others. The book warns children not to be too stubborn or insist on carrying too much weight. The main character of the book learns that you must learn to accept assistance.

Growing up means becoming independent, but we will always need help. We don’t become better at this lesson as we age. We do become better at hiding our need for help.

Invite others into your life to motivate you to make the changes that can be difficult to achieve on your own. You can gain the confidence to make changes by getting support from others. This could be through friends, joining a group, visiting a counselor, or hiring a trainer.

It is particularly true of the things you are most embarrassed about.

Sharing the things that you struggle with is the first step to change. Having the support of friends and professionals can help you overcome shame and fear.

You were not created to face life and its challenges alone. You were designed to have healthy relationships. It is life-changing to share your deepest shame and pain with others and receive care and support.

Have you established a structure of support for yourself? Where could you find people who are supportive and encouraging if not? You might benefit from consulting a professional or counselor who is an expert in the areas of your life that you wish to change.

Do not struggle alone. Do not wonder how you can improve your life. You will feel defeated and burdened by shame if you try to do everything on your own. Invite others to join you in your journey.