How to tell a high-quality man from an Fboy
Here’s a question for you, dear reader…
Do you feel confident that you can tell a Fboy apart from a man of high quality?
If you’ve never heard of F*Boy Island, I can give you a brief overview of its plot.
This reality show brings together 3 beautiful young women, 12 F*ck Boys who call themselves that and 12 Nice Guy to live on a small island.
These women must date for two-and-a half weeks and determine which men are which.
The plot thickens…
The ladies can split $50,000 with the Nice Guy they choose at the end 10 episodes (and possibly ride off together into the sunset).
But if you choose an F*Boy, he can run off with all of the money.
What is the twist?
As the story unfolds, it becomes increasingly clear that not all “nice guys” are high quality men.
The fact that these women, who are smart and likeable, seem so inept at distinguishing between the two was what shocked and frustrated.
This got me to thinking about what I would do if faced with such a challenge.
As I watched, I had MANY thoughts about this, but I wanted to keep it simple. (This is a blog, after all!) Here are my top three ways to tell a FBoy apart from a high quality man:
1. Boys are generally confident and smooth.
They are very good at creating chemistry in a short time by making you feel special and then leaving you wanting more. They’ve been doing it for a while and know what they are talking about!
Unfortunately, many of the nice men were eliminated very early on in the show. They tended to be more reserved and had a kinder approach towards women. It is no coincidence that many women who are happily married describe their courtships as a “slow burn” because it took them time to fully understand and appreciate the positive traits of their husband.
It is also possible that intense feelings of infatuation at the beginning can indicate a Fboy .
2. FBoys have a history of relationships that is vague or patchy.
It means that they have either had few long-term committed relationships (ideally, by the time they are 27 years old they should have at least had one or two that lasted for 2 years) or a lot of short-term ones and they don’t really take responsibility as to why they didn’t work. They may say, “She was crazy” or “She got jealous a ton.” Asking about a partner’s relationship history is important.
This is a great way to gauge their commitment level. You have to be able to read between lines, because FBoys can lie.
3. FBoys are fast.
Consequently, the sexual aspect of things can develop quite quickly. Slowing things down is the best way to distinguish an FBoy.
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